Substack

Teaching Children the Fruit of Longsuffering

A new generation of parents has arrived, people who love their children more visibly, more anxiously, and more attentively than perhaps any generation before them. They read the books, they watch for the warning signs, and they would lay down almost anything for the good of the child in front of them. Yet many of these same parents struggle to tell the difference between play and scholé , or between protecting a child from cruelty and protecting a child from difficulty. These are not the same acts of love. One forms a soul while the other, however tenderly intended, can quietly deform it.

Dr. Toyin Atolagbe photo By Dr. Toyin Atolagbe

August 24, 2026

hero image

Teaching Children the Fruit of Longsuffering

From Substack

This article was originally published on Substack

Subscribe to receive weekly insights from Dr. Toyin Atolagbe on classical education, thoughtful parenting, and the formation of virtue—delivered directly to your inbox.

Read on Substack

A new generation of parents has arrived, people who love their children more visibly, more anxiously, and more attentively than perhaps any generation before them. They read the books, they watch for the warning signs, and they would lay down almost anything for the good of the child in front of them. Yet many of these same parents struggle to tell the difference between play and scholé, or between protecting a child from cruelty and protecting a child from difficulty. These are not the same acts of love. One forms a soul while the other, however tenderly intended, can quietly deform it.

Dr. Toyin Atolagbe photo

Dr. Toyin Atolagbe

Director of Parent and Educator Partnerships

Related Resources

Podcast What Do We Lose When Work Becomes Only a Paycheck? with Jeffrey Dill

October 05, 2026

Forged: Timeless Ways of Living


What Do We Lose When Work Becomes Only a Paycheck? with Jeffrey Dill

What happens when work becomes little more than a paycheck, food becomes something we expect to appear in a grocery store, and home becomes mostly a place of consumption? In this episode, Brian Williams speaks with sociologist, professor, and farmer Jeffrey Dill about the dignity of work, the discipline of living within limits, and what farming can teach us about family, freedom, and responsibility. Drawing on his experience with a regenerative beef and pork farm in Pennsylvania, Jeff considers what industrial efficiency gives us and what it can quietly take away: connection to land, craft, neighbor, and the formative power of labor itself. Their conversation ranges from Adam Smith and Wendell Berry to care work, fatherhood, household life, and raising young men who understand that a good life is larger than a career. Listen for a thoughtful invitation to recover work as something that forms us, not merely something that pays us. Jeff also reflects on folding laundry as a discipline, time outdoors with family as a delight, woodworking as a craft, and the love of God and neighbor as the calling that gathers the rest of life together. The conversation closes with W. H. Auden and a reminder that meaningful lives are built through ordinary acts of work, love, service, and fidelity.

News School-Choice Tax Credit Gets Big Boost From Treasury

October 01, 2026

Richard Rubin and Ashlea Ebeling


School-Choice Tax Credit Gets Big Boost From Treasury

Married couples can donate double, making tax break worth $3,400, not $1,700

News Bessent Advances Divisive $26 Billion School Tax Credit Plan

October 01, 2026

Erin Hudson


Bessent Advances Divisive $26 Billion School Tax Credit Plan

The program, dubbed the Education Freedom Tax Credit, allows individual taxpayers to direct up to $1,700 of their annual federal tax bill to nonprofits that grant scholarships to students to pay for qualified educational expenses.